I say, if there is a god, then he made me a very logical person unwilling to believe things that I see no evidence of. He knows that if he wants me to believe in him he would have have to do something big, and he hasn’t. Thus, he either doesn’t really care if I believe in him or doesn’t exist, or maybe just doesn’t like interfering. In any case, fake believing would not make a lick of difference to GOD, you know, that really powerful guy.

–Mike

‘“crazy outbursts and mood swings”
Crazy?? Just because one does not understand where a woman is coming from, it does not necessarily follow that her reactions are crazy.’

Carla being this “angry” over a simple statement shows that she can get extremely emotional and when you come across extremely emotional then regular people look at you like you’re, well… “crazy!”

‘“the masculine acts upon the world, the feminine exists in it”
Really? We only exist???’

This is clearly a woman who has a problem with “being a woman” (the reason for this blog) or playing the role of a feminine woman. This drives real men away. PERIOD

‘“Such a devoted woman has the courage to trust her man’s steady vision to penetrate the fog of her rampant emotions”
In the first paragraph our emotions are “a vital ingredient of [our] expressive beauty,” but now they are a fog of rampant emotions? And how many men do you know with a truly “steady” vision?’

I think what the writer was saying is that a woman’s emotions are a part of her. Don’t be afraid to express them. Just know HOW to express them. Carla’s initial comment “this is bullshit” shows she doesn’t know how to express herself or her emotions thoroughly. Even the way she commented to the post shows that she is “reactive” instead of “proactive.” In relationships, women who are proactive with their emotions tend to be less “emotional” while still expressing their emotions. This is key.

“Actually, I take issue with all of point #3. Why should a woman follow a man just because he “intends” one thing even if he does another? If he can make mistakes (as we all do), then perhaps she needn’t follow him at all, but follow her own inner guide which, if he is right for her, should not be contradictory to his anyway. But she should never just follow a man without considering her own spirit first. And as far as asking how to serve him… I could go on for days!”

Honey… we don’t make the rules, but trust me, if you want a man, then you have to make sacrifices, just make sure those sacrifices don’t compromise your integrity. Also, do a better job a judging a man. If you don’t think you can “follow him” then he’s probably not the man for you. Find a man that is “worthy” of you following him or be single. Either way you have to do what makes you happy.

“While I get the point of #4, it still sounds condescending” – Clearly this woman is quite bitter.

#5 – A woman needn’t be “grateful” just because a man chooses to see her as a sex object. If a man were respectful he would never need to feel any way if a woman declines his advances. She has her own mind, free will and choices. She can choose to turn away from anyone she wishes. If a man feels a way about it, then it is his own issue and insecurity.

– She has misinterpreted his entire statement. It takes a lot for a respectable man to approach you. If a “respectable” man goes out of his way to compliment and show interest in you, you don’t have to accept his advances, but it’s crass and un-ladylike to be plain out rude. Again, this post is about “being a woman” it’s clear that this person has no idea of what it takes to be a woman.

All and all, this post may be a little “straight forward” but if you read between the lines and analyze the words from a “womanly” prospective, the post shows you how to be, well… a woman. There are different forms of women, feminist, liberated, docile, submissive, etc. You can choose to be either kind you want, but you have to be willing to live with the consequences. I used to be a carbon copy of “Carla” but I wasn’t happy. It was like I was fighting the natural order of the universe. To me, this post was more empowering than demeaning because of the fact that it is a challenge to me. It’s a challenge for a woman to be strong enough to play the role of “woman” while at the same time respecting herself, her emotions and her sexuality. I just want to thank you, Mike, for writing such a profound / straight to the point entry.

This post is OLD… for a more recent one, check out Thundercat’s “Ideagasms MELT-DOWN”